40 questions
Questions for couples who want to keep discovering each other
Long-term couples often say the same thing: we talk all the time, but mostly about logistics. Who's picking up what, when the bill is due, what's for dinner. It's easy to forget how much there still is to learn about each other.
These questions are for partners at any stage. Some are playful, some are about how you love and argue and support each other, and some are about the future you're building together.
Light questions for date night
Warm, nostalgic and a little silly. Perfect over dinner or on a long drive.
- Which couple you know makes love look good, and why?
- What's the most thoughtful small gift you've ever given or received?
- What does love look like on a lazy Sunday?
- Big celebrations or quiet traditions: which do you prefer for special occasions?
- What's a pet name you secretly love or absolutely can't stand?
- What's the best relationship advice you've ever heard?
- Which romantic movie gets love completely wrong?
- What's your favourite memory of us so far?
- What everyday moment feels like love to you?
- What song belongs on a playlist about us?
- How do you like to be looked after when you're ill?
- Which chore would you happily do forever if it meant never doing another one?
Questions about how you love each other
Communication, boundaries, conflict and appreciation, without it turning into a therapy session.
- How do you know you feel loved?
- What do you need more of in a relationship?
- How did the relationships you grew up around shape your idea of love?
- What does a fair argument look like to you?
- How much time alone do you need to feel like yourself?
- What's a boundary you've learned to set?
- What's one thing I do that makes you feel appreciated?
- What's a relationship habit you're glad you dropped?
- How do you prefer to make up after a disagreement?
- What's something small I could do this week that would mean a lot to you?
- How do you feel about sharing passwords, phones and locations?
- What feels like a healthy amount of time together?
- What's one value you'd never compromise on in a partner?
- What does loyalty mean to you, beyond the obvious?
- What's something you'd like us to get better at together?
- How do you show love to the people in your life who aren't partners?
Questions about the future
Money, home, ambitions and the life you want. Better talked about early and often.
- What does a good life look like for you ten years from now?
- What would you do with a year-long sabbatical?
- What's a goal you've quietly given up on, and do you miss it?
- Is money mostly a tool, a safety net or a source of stress for you?
- Spender, saver, or somewhere in between?
- What's a risk you'd like to take before you get too comfortable?
- What career path did you almost take?
- How important is it to you to be known for your work?
- Do you want to put down roots or keep moving around?
- What's something you want to take seriously this year?
- What does family look like in your future, if anything at all?
- What would your ideal work week look like?
Ideas for using these as a couple
- Make it a ritual
- Ten questions every Sunday morning, or one on every road trip. Small rituals keep curiosity alive.
- Keep a favourites list
- Save the questions that sparked the best conversations and come back to them in a year. The answers change.
- Don't argue the answers
- If something surprises you, get curious first. You can talk it through properly later.
Frequently asked questions
Are these questions only for long-term couples?
No. Many work just as well a few months in. The Love & Relationships deck marks questions that assume a shared history, and you can skip any that don't fit.
How do we play on one phone?
Pick a deck, choose Read aloud or Pass the phone, and take turns. There's nothing to type and no account to make.
Can we save questions to come back to?
Yes. Tap the heart on any card. Favourites are stored on your device, and you can play a round using only your favourites.